Sunday, May 19, 2024

Tips for Living in a Tiny Space (NOT a Tiny Home), Part 2 - The Tips

See "Tips for Living in a Tiny Space (NOT a Tiny Home), Part 1 - The Backstory" for the backstory. 

Now... drum roll please... Here are the actual tips.

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Organization is one of the keys.

I have gotten multiple sizes and shapes of containers through the years. I ramped that up with a lot of  Dollar Tree and Amazon shopping to find specific items needed to make the best use of every available space I have.

Having two incomes didn’t mean I wasn’t going to try to save money every way I could so I buy sodas in bulk when they are on sale. However, I needed places to keep them.

One day I realized I had a little bit of space (about a foot) to the left of the fridge where I kept TV trays. They were rarely used, so I found a shelf that could hold soda 12-packs. I used paper trays on two shelves to put paper plates and bowls and included a basket on the top for chips.

-        It’s imperative to lower expectations of having the perfect aesthetic.

      When there are only inches of areas where you can see the walls between the sheer amount of furniture you have AND you are living on a tight budget, items that typically would have been put in cabinets are in plain sight. The size and functionality of furniture is much more important than whether the pieces are the same style. There isn’t much room for décor. 

``    I have a few flat places where I put our favorite decorative items but mostly use shelves on walls above the shorter pieces of furniture for that. Shelves are some of my best friends.

-         When you have the choice, choose the same or similar colors for areas. The small milk crates on the top of the fridge are white, as is the fridge. The basket on top of the shelf I bought for 12-packs is gray to go with the silver of the shelf.

      The majority of the furniture in here is brown (though different types of woods and shades of brown) except for one end table that’s silver – but it’s not beside any of the wood furniture.

      To this end, contact paper is my friend. When a piece of furniture is a very different color from the surrounding items, sometimes contact paper works to make it blend. Paint would do the same job, but it’s permanent and I never know how all this will work if we move.

-        Think vertical.

This is a common piece of advice from organizational experts. Again, shelves are the hero here. I have shelves in our “pantry,” shelves under the bathroom sinks, shelves in the closets, and many stackable paper trays in the study.

If I can’t go wide, I go high.

Think outside of the box for unusual solutions to tiny living issues.

Like I said earlier, at first food that would typically be put in a pantry or cabinet was in dresser drawers. When that dresser was moved to another room after our wedding, we added one that’s a stackable cabinet (used typically for sweaters) over three large drawers.  

Currently, six drawers of the old nine-drawer “pantry” (dresser) include kitchen supplies, silverware, Ziploc bags, etc. Three are for meds, miscellaneous items like nail polish, and basic office supplies I use a lot when I’m working there.

After we got everything else set up, I realized we needed a coffee table, but couldn’t find one that would fit in the tiny open area in the kitchen/den. 

I finally decided on a bedside table – the kind from hospitals (though this one is nicer). It has a height adjustment, an advantage of converting it into a standing desk. It’s just the right size and, as a bonus, moves around easily so we can use it multiple ways.

I’m the kind of person who wears clothes more than once if they aren’t dirty. It bothered me that I had nowhere to keep those clothes since I wouldn’t put them with the truly clean ones.

Earlier I forgot to mention command hooks are also my friends. I got four clear hooks and put them on my bathroom wall. Now I'm able to keep those clothes off the floor and wear them again.

Though I care for the environment, we use paper plates. Life is hard enough without taking all of our dishes into the kitchen to wash – and then having to either let them dry on the countertop (which also doesn’t have much space) or sorting when using the dishwasher.

However, I can’t stand using plastic cutlery. I had silverware from my old home but needed a solution for cleaning the forks, spoons, and knives.

I decided to use the bathroom sink. It took a lot of searching to find a dishpan that would fit and small drying rack. But eventually, I found what I needed.

There was still the problem of having dried food become one with the silverware before I had time to wash it. (Freelancing = long hours.) 

I bought a few large plastic cups. I fill one half-way with water and add the silverware to soak until I have time to give them a bath.

It’s not the best solution – the cutlery water gets incredibly gross and washing anything in a bathroom sink has issues - but it works.

Over-the-door hooks and shoe holders are two more of my friends.

Some doors have multiple hooks; some have just one. But there isn't a door in my living space that doesn't have at least one hook. Purses, backpacks, laptop bags, and jackets or coats all live on these hooks.

Clear shoe holders on the backs of two doors hold charging cables, short extension cords, our most used tools, and similar items. It's a great way to organize a lot of small items where they can be seen easily. 

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Living in a tiny space isn’t what I would consider enjoyable. It’s barely manageable at times. Number one… I wouldn’t trade having this time with my parents for anything, especially since my dad passed away about six months ago. Number two… I’ve gotten to live out my dream career.

Number three… though it’s been very challenging at times, secretly I love the challenge. It’s can be fun to work hard to find a solution to a problem that no-one else has. It’s completely up to me to figure it out.

And when, months or years later, I notice that one of my solutions is still working, it gives me so much satisfaction. Sometimes when I think about the day I’ll need to move, I hope I’ll still recognize the lessons living this way taught me and continue to appreciate the stigma of living in a tiny space.

Sunday, May 5, 2024

Tips for Living in a Tiny Space (NOT a Tiny Home), Part 1 - The Backstory

First - the backstory. 

Even though tiny homes are gaining popularity, the current housing trend seems to be “bigger is better.” Though I could go on to talk about that idea – and how it feeds materialism due to having to fill up a big house – I’m going on a more personal route.

Why is this post on a blog called “Spotlight on Stigma,” you might ask. Well… I’ll tell you.

It’s a stigma because living in a tiny space, not the trendy “tiny home,” is looked down upon. There are two big differences between the two.  A person must be very deliberate in choosing a tiny home as a housing option. Not being able to afford something large goes with being poor and unsuccessful.

Plus, a tiny home is made to have the maximum storage possible. Most have a full-service kitchen, even though it's small, as well as every other basic amenity that typical homes include.

I live in a tiny space. About 8 ½ years ago I lost my job (which you can read about in my other posts). One day my mom and I talked about my next step and she said that she and my dad were thinking about moving closer to my brothers, their doctors, and their church.

Another factor in this idea was that she and my dad were having more and more health issues, and my dad was also showing signs of dementia. She proposed they buy something big enough to include my daughter and me. She added that by doing this, I could live out my dream of becoming a full-time professional photographer.

I actually laughed. When I ended up moving from my hometown, I never wanted to come back. I loved where I lived at the time – a ranch-type house with three bedrooms, one double-sized, two big living areas, two bathrooms, a small study, laundry room, and kitchen. (I still miss it to this day).

It wasn’t tiny, but it definitely wasn’t large. It wasn’t crowded but had just enough space for our needs.

About her second point, becoming a full-time photographer was a dream I gave up years ago. I didn’t consider it a viable possibility.

But the longer I prayed about it, the more I knew it was the best option. As much as I loved where I lived and my home there – and, frankly, I was concerned about living with my parents after living on my own for over 25 years - I knew it was what I needed to do.

Finally, I called my mom and said yes.

I included the background story to show that even though it was technically a choice, it wasn’t one I would have made in different circumstances.

Anyway, though I’m overall a pessimistic person, I do like a challenge and try to make the most of what I have. When we moved, I had two rooms and a bathroom. My daughter had her own room and bathroom upstairs.

One of my rooms was my bedroom, obviously. It had a small closet but thankfully, I’m one of those people with only a basic wardrobe. As to the other room, it was a combination office and den.

Over time, I realized that, due to my eating disorder, having to share a kitchen with my parents wasn’t working. I knew I needed a space to put healthy food that I liked.

I came up with the idea to buy a long dresser for a pantry. I could use the top as a counter to prepare food as well as hold a toaster oven and a mini fridge. As the loveseat (for the den aspect) wasn’t used much, we moved it out to make room for the modified, basic “kitchen.”

It wasn’t the perfect solution, but it helped a lot.

I kept this or a similar configuration for about four more years until my boyfriend proposed. By this time, living with my parents had more to do with them needing help than my financial situation. I could have moved out after we married because I had his salary to combine with what I made as a freelancer.

It took a little while for me to finally ask him a scary question – where do you want to live? He responded that he thought he would move in with me and my parents. My daughter had moved out by this time, so we had the option of making it a booming THREE-room living space!

But, of course, we had a LOT more items to put in that space. We moved the “kitchen” (which now included an apartment-sized fridge instead of a mini fridge) in my former bedroom and made it a den/kitchen combo.

My old study became our study – with two really large desks and work areas and storage for our camera equipment. My daughter’s bedroom upstairs became our bedroom.

It's cramped, but it works, though when my husband lost his 9-5 job and joined me in the freelance business, it became more claustrophobic at times.

...Because you made it this far, you're ready to read the actual tips. Go to my blog "Tips for Living in a Tiny Space (NOT a Tiny Home), Part 2 - The Tips to find out ways I make living in this situation feasible.

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